Checkpoint for Men: Loneliness, Identity & Mental Health in Midlife

Checkpoint – For the Men Out There

Hit your own checkpoint as a man?

Too often, we don’t. And while I can say we’re slowly getting better at it, there are still a couple of things that need to be said.

First,
As we get older, whether it’s through marriage, partnerships, kids, or just the busyness of life, we naturally become a little more co-dependent. That’s not a bad thing. But here’s the catch…

In the past six months, I’ve worked with a number of male clients who’ve been forced into change. Whether it’s due to medical reasons or something far too common these days, mid-life divorce, these moments expose something we don’t talk about enough,

Loneliness.
A lot of men are opening up to me about how alone they feel. And it’s often because somewhere along the way, they lost touch with their independence , their own identity” within their relationships.

We stop calling our mates. We stop playing sport or showing up to the group stuff that once grounded us. Hell, how many of you even keep in touch with the mates you invited to your own wedding?

Lads, don’t lose your independence.
Staying connected doesn’t mean you’re any less committed to your partner or family. In fact, it makes you a better version of yourself for them. Your mates matter. You matter. Keep those social ties alive.

Secondly,
As someone who works with both men and women, it’s painfully clear, men still struggle to talk. The number of times I’ve heard something like:

“If I go to the doctor or speak to someone, it means I’m admitting something’s wrong… and then I actually have to deal with it.”

That mindset is heavy. It’s real. And it’s holding a lot of good men back.

We need to keep showing up for our mates, especially the ones who go quiet. They may not reply right away. They may not have the words. But your check-ins will matter. Keep asking. Keep showing up.

Let’s change the standard. Talk. Check in. Hold on to who you are. Your health, your friendships, and your independence are worth protecting.

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